7 Things You Should Do With Your Wife

Listen To her

When I say “listen to her” I don’t mean when she tells you to do something you are bound to do it (although it’s a good idea if you’re married). I’m talking about actively listening when she desires your attention and auditory investment. This means put down the remote or phone, make eye contact, lean in and be interested. We don’t talk unless we feel it is something important so put in the effort. Listening does take energy. You have to commit, really show up and be present for her (the same way you eagerly desire her to be when intimacy is anticipated).

Focus on Her

Rihanna explains it all when she sing, “Want you to make me feel like I’m the only girl in the world.” Do you think if you have the SI swimsuit edition or Maxim and Stuff magazines littering your bathroom or bedroom you are projecting that sentiment? As men we are very visual creatures and women, generally speaking, are very conscious of other women and where we fix our gaze. If you have to read these tabloids, do it at the barber or the magazine rack

Support her

This is one area women have excelled and we are just totally clueless. You my have heard the quote, “Behind every good man is a great woman.” That statement’s veracity can be corroborated by reading almost any autobiography of a great man. When your wife has a new endeavor that fills her full of fire and life, now is not the time to be the small, egocentric man. Do not fear her greatness being revealed or her possible acquisition of a new social circle. This is your opportunity to show her you are in her corner with full trust in her virtues and her abilities. We all need something for ourselves in order to be our highest self, to be our happiest self. She has sacrificed for you over and over and now it’s our turn to give full support in any way we can. I’m quite sure she has earned it.

Take Her on Dates

Remember back to the passionately uncertain beginnings of your current relationship? Back when you were driven by fear of loss and desire to please and impress what you had culled through courting? Is it prudent to have ever digressed from those moments? If your wife was lulled into amorous commitment through the time-honored rituals of this sequence of events you can choose to neglect this process at your relationships demise. But, I would recommend purposefully allotting time for these amour inspiring events to transpire

Dance with Her

I know this one shakes most of us to our very core with a fear factor analogous to public speaking and if you ask the right creative type, they would tell you dancing is a mode of public speaking. This is one area where your courage really needs to allow for your vulnerability. The good news is this: you don’t have to have moves like Chris Brown or Ne-Yo. If you have ever seen Hitch with Will Smith and Kevin James, “You live here”, you’ll see the simple and reproducible moves. There aren’t many things that will warm your girl up for a night of intimate bliss like some dance floor booty bumpin’ with her dude.

Bring Her Flowers

The proper perspective and the significance of bringing your lady flowers should not be relegated to the mere act of gift giving. This simple gesture not only involves a sensory explosion of kaleidoscopic colors and scents, it says a lot more. You are showing your wife that although you’re not with her physically and mentally, you never left your side. You held her in your thoughts while brooking the unpleasant distance between parting and reuniting. Flowers signify the moment. By their very nature they are ephemeral and beg to be immediately appreciated, knowing their blessing of beauty rapidly flees.

Pray With Her

Your wife is already in a relationship with someone else and he has very big shoes for you to fill. Praying with your wife and praying for your wife are an essential foundation for the bond you have created between your wife, yourself and God. You have at least 3 built-in opportunities throughout your day to do this: in the morning, at your dinner meal and just prior to going to bed. Give gratitude for another day with your amazing wife is perhaps our greatest blessing. Let your precious wife hear you pray for her happiness and hear you thanking God for the amazing gift he has bestowed upon you through her.